I want to lose weight but I'm really depressed. What should I do?






Have you ever been lost?
Now, I mean… literally lost, like: “Dude, where’s my car?”
Man, this one time, I was traveling to my friends in Arkansas, USA, to be a part of his wedding. I drove all the way from Texas with a friend of mine.
We got there a little late, I noticed the gas light was on, and my friend said: “Oh don’t worry! Steven said there was a gas station near him.”
Well, the reassurance soon turned to panic when my friend said: “Only if I could find Stevens’…”
We were way out in the boondocks and did not get cell phone service, there were no street lights and it was dark and cold. We drove around until the tanked emptied, then we walked, and walked, finding a corner store. We got to use their land line phone to contact our friend, who promptly came to our rescue.
The reason we finally made it, was because we wouldn't just settle with being lost, we didn’t quit, even though we knew we didn’t know where we were going.
For that reason, we made it to our destination.
It wasn't an option!
The destination does not care if you’re lost, or you’re feelings, it only matters if you show up or not.
When you’re lost, it's uncomfortable. But, do you just throw your hands in the air and quit? Do you say: “Well, looks like I'm just lost, this is my life forever now, lost.” No, you keep searching, you keep going until you’re there, even if you don’t know what direction to travel, you just travel. If you need help, you ask strangers, you get out of your comfort zone, you do everything in your power to get to your destination.
Looking back on this memory, It really taught me a lot about the human mind.
My life really changed when I changed my mind & body.
I asked myself: “Why is the mindset, no retreat, no surrender, only come when we’re lost, and not in our everyday lives?”
Why isn't going to the gym or looking after our health the same way?
You don’t settle for being lost, why settle for being overweight?
Why can we look at the weight like we’re lost, but no matter what, we keep going, we keep pushing until we’re there.
It’s because we live in our feelings.
I know about this, I wake up almost every day with doom and gloom. For the amount of people I motivate and cheer up, I’m the lone clown sitting in the corner all alone when the lights go out.
I live this way because my pain is so great, my spirit, so battle tested, this is my life, I feel like I’m constantly lost, and pushing on, despite my feelings, and despite my outlook for that day.
I can relate this to working out; Some days I just don't want to workout, I’m tired, sore, unmotivated.I still get in there, refusing to just be “lost”.
The pain… HAHA, are you kidding me?
I put myself in the frying pan baby!
Constant burn, never letting up, sweat in my eyes and blood in my mouth. I push throw this pain, not living in my feelings but my principles.
At the end of our feelings is nothing.
At the end of our principles is a promise.
Despite waking up every day, depressed, lost, frazzled… Despite all these feelings I have, the one core pillar for me, my principles, promised me a healthy strong body if I took care of it.
My principles promised me a strong mind if I expanded it.
My principles promised me my destination if I simply kept traveling, kept searching, and never giving up. Create core principles, and stick to them no matter what.
There has to be something in your life where you draw the line, and you don’t budge, no matter what. This will keep you on track when your emotions try and take over. You may feel sad, or down, but you do it anyway. This builds your habits and eventually becomes second nature.
Do what you’re supposed to do whether you feel like it or not.

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